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August 9, 2010

Inspired to Succeed: How To Get Out Of Your Own Way And Create Change

(568 words, less than 3 minutes reading time)

Want to get unstuck? Last week, we talked about being able to recognize the signs that you — or people you’re trying to work (or live) with — are resisting a change that needs to happen.

Here are 6 steps you can take to confront resistance and leave it sniveling in your dust.

1. Own it. Recognize and accept that you are in resistance. When we deny resistance or ignore it, resistance owns us. Example: When other things keep bumping the thing you need to do from your list, that’s resistance. When we don’t own it, it’s so easy to believe that those things were urgent and postponing the change unavoidable, day after week after month. When you own that you are in resistance, you are better able to see how your priorities may be interfering with the bigger picture.

2. Know the cost of staying in resistance. What happens if you don’t make the change? What are the predictable outcomes of remaining on your current path?

Yes, financially, but also in terms of:

  • other impacts on your business
  • lost opportunity
  • state of mind
  • physical and emotional energy
  • health and wellbeing
  • impact on others
  • what else?

3. Know WIIFM – (What’s In It For Me) While you do want to know the potential negative impacts above, fear is not ultimately the best motivator for the long haul. What are the predictable positive outcomes for you if you successfully create the change you want to see?
Yes, financially, but also in terms of:

  • sense of accomplishment
  • creation of new opportunity
  • state of mind
  • physical and emotional energy
  • health and wellbeing
  • impact on others
  • what else?

4. Get specific and Get positive. What is the specific action you need to take? This step trips up a lot of people. For example: increasing revenue, landing a job or losing weight are not actions. These are goals that can help define direction, but we often mistake these for what we need to do. You can’t actually DO any of these things, they are the outcomes of other actions.

Positive actions you might take to create revenue are making a certain number of calls a day to set up meetings with prospective clients. And developing a strategy for converting meetings into business.

Stopping something you do is a negative rather than a positive action. You’ll be more effective if you plan the action you will take instead of the one you want to stop.

5. Tell the story of the change you want to see. In detail. the most basic tool of change and any other thing you want to create is the word. And it’s most powerful form is the story. Start to paint a detailed visual picture using words, for yourself and others. Repeat this, allowing it to develop and guide your actions and decisions. When you start to live the story the change you want to see begins to materialize.

6. Take away the option of not changing. When we say we’re going to do something but we allow something else to distract us and we accept that excuse, we allow the option of not doing what we need to do. Instead, commit to taking action, whether or not other things come up. If not acting isn’t an option, you’ll be amazed at the change you can create.

For other perspectives on getting out of your own way, check out my friend, Mark Goulston’s work:

Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

Get Out of Your Own Way at Work…And Help Others Do the Same: Conquer Self-Defeating Behavior on the Job

1 Comment »

  1. Sharon,

    This is fantastic. Not that I haven’t heard these ideas; but the way you’ve expressed the value of taking each Step. I was planning on doing some writing anyway tonight; I will include your idea of writing our vision, speaking our word, telling a new story. Who I am is the possibility of boldness, romantic commitment, prosperity and leadership; this is what I’ve been declaring lately, and many of my actions have been in alignment with this “person” I’m ongoingly creating.


    Comment by Robin Gurse — August 10, 2010 @ 4:40 am | Reply

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